We are now in ramadhan and everyone is reminding each other on what to do and what not to do because this is the month where the Quran was revealed to us as guidance. Everyone wants ajr from Allah and everyone wants to earn it the easier way so all of us choose to do the least sadaqa we can afford. Therefore in this holy month, charity is highly recomended. The Messenger of Allah (saw) addressed his companions on the last day of Sha`ban, saying, “Oh people! A great month has come over you; a blessed month; a month in which is a night better than a thousand months; month in which Allah has made it compulsory upon you to fast by day, and voluntary to pray by night. Whoever draws nearer (to Allah) by performing any of the (optional) good deeds in (this month) shall receive the same reward as performing an obligatory deed at any other time, and whoever discharges an obligatory deed in (this month) shall receive the reward of performing seventy obligations at any other time. It is the month of patience, and the reward of patience is Heaven. It is the month of charity, and a month in which a believer’s sustenance is increased. Whoever gives food to a fasting person to break his fast, shall have his sins forgiven, and he will be saved from the Fire of Hell, and he shall have the same reward as the fasting person, without his reward being diminished at all.” [Narrated by Ibn Khuzaymah] . This shows how much the prophet reminded his people of deeds as small as feeding a fasting person. Allah says in the Quran “The month of Ramadhan [is that] in which was revealed the Qur’an, a guidance for the people and clear proofs of guidance and criterion. So whoever sights [the new moon of] the month, let him fast it; and whoever is ill or on a journey – then an equal number of other days. Allah intends for you ease and does not intend for you hardship and [wants] for you to complete the period and to glorify Allah for that [to] which He has guided you; and perhaps you will be grateful.” (Q:2:185). May Allah take us through the holy month in peace and good health, Ameen.
I am not here to talk about what we are supposed to do and what we aren’t supposed to do, i am also a learner and AlhamduliLlah we have a lot of sources with information. Let us just make sure to find the right information. I want to share few information, basically tips for non- Muslim friends of Muslims, in Ramadhan. I know y’all haraam police are almost closing down my site. Please read more, i do not mean intimate non-muslim friends but basically workmates and relatives. We all do have some. We need to tell them what they need to know, this way it reduces chances of them annoying us unknowingly which also prevents us from getting mad, and ending up spoil our swaum. They all know ramadhan is here but most of them are not really sure how to behave in this period. Here are some tips:
DO NOT ASSUME, ASK QUESTIONS
If a meeting needs to be held during ramadhan, do not assume we are too weak to attend any. Just ask us our preferred time otherwise the assumptions will eventually turn to stereotypes that muslims get lazy when we fast.
DO NOT ASK ALL THE QUESTIONS IN PUBLIC
In as much we want you guys to be open, be mindful of what you ask and how you do it. Do not go out screaming to a lady “WHY AREN’T YOU FASTING” in public. We are allowed not to fast, when sick, old aged etc and we (ladies only) are not allowed to fast on menstruation, pregnancy etc.
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO STARVE YOURSELF
Some of you feel so shy eating in front of us when we are fasting, just because you’ve heard it is not advisable to. You can always eat because it makes no sense staying hungry and you aren’t getting anything out of it. Just try not to flaunt a meal in front of us that it becomes intimidating.
At least do it our way, if it makes sense. If a Muslim says they cannot attend to a meeting at sunset please understand. We might get absent minded sometimes, those of us who are used to coffee, we might have headaches at work, sometimes we might also need to rest. Understand. Most of the times, we might need to read the Quran more often than usual because of the added rewards, at work or in class, give us that space.
DO NOT INTERROGATE US, JOIN US OR EVEN ARGUE WITH US ON THE CONTROVERSIAL TOPICS
All of us know that we use lunar calendar and months begin when the first crescent of a new moon is sighted. Since the Islamic lunar calendar year is 10 to 11 days shorter than the solar year, Ramadan migrates throughout the seasons. Wiki says; Many Muslims insist on the local physical sighting of the moon to mark the beginning of Ramadan, but others use the calculated time of the new moon or the Saudi Arabian declaration to determine the start of the month. Since the new moon is not in the same state at the same time globally, the beginning and ending dates of Ramadan depend on what lunar sightings are received in each respective location. As a result, Ramadan dates vary in different countries, but usually only by a day. This is due to the cycle of the moon. The moon travels the same path all year round and when the moon is seen in the east, it is then seen traveling towards the west. All the countries around the world see the moon within a 24-hour period once spotted by one country in the east.
Each year, Ramadan begins about eleven days earlier than in the previous year. Astronomical projections that approximate the start of Ramadan are available. 33 Islamic years are approximately equal to 32 tropical years, with six days over.
Therefore, we do not expect you to be judging anyone or argue with us how some places are fasting before others.
Allah knows best.