AlhamduliLlah, we’ve reached the middle of ramadhan and everyone is reminding each other on what to do and what not to do because this is the month where the Quran was revealed to us as guidance. Everyone wants ajr from Allah and everyone wants to earn it the easier way so all of us choose to do the least sadaqa we can afford. Therefore in this holy month, charity is highly recomended. The Messenger of Allah (saw) addressed his companions on the last day of Sha`ban, saying, “Oh people! A great month has come over you; a blessed month; a month in which is a night better than a thousand months; month in which Allah has made it compulsory upon you to fast by day, and voluntary to pray by night. Whoever draws nearer (to Allah) by performing any of the (optional) good deeds in (this month) shall receive the same reward as performing an obligatory deed at any other time, and whoever discharges an obligatory deed in (this month) shall receive the reward of performing seventy obligations at any other time. It is the month of patience, and the reward of patience is Heaven. It is the month of charity, and a month in which a believer’s sustenance is increased. Whoever gives food to a fasting person to break his fast, shall have his sins forgiven, and he will be saved from the Fire of Hell, and he shall have the same reward as the fasting person, without his reward being diminished at all.” [Narrated by Ibn Khuzaymah] . This shows how much the prophet reminded his people of deeds as small as feeding a fasting person. Allah says in the Quran “The month of Ramadhan [is that] in which was revealed the Qur’an, a guidance for the people and clear proofs of guidance and criterion. So whoever sights [the new moon of] the month, let him fast it; and whoever is ill or on a journey – then an equal number of other days. Allah intends for you ease and does not intend for you hardship and [wants] for you to complete the period and to glorify Allah for that [to] which He has guided you; and perhaps you will be grateful.” (Q:2:185). May Allah take us through the holy month in peace and good health, Ameen.
I am not here to talk about what we are supposed to do and what we aren’t supposed to do, i am also a learner and AlhamduliLlah we have a lot of sources with information. Let us just make sure to find the right information. I want to share few information, basically habits that usually happen in ramadhan that are unpleasant but people are used to. We all do either one or more of them. In shaa Allah, by the end of this article, we hope to learn more and do what pleases Allah.
Sleeping in the masjid
This is the period people get lazy and weak because of low energy and hunger. It is always advisable to spend in the masjid than outside but spending the whole day sleeping in the masjid does not serve the purpose.
Eating in public – for the sisters who are not fasting
It is makruh to show people that you are not fasting. We all know it is allowed but we should not show it. In this month, we all need to encourage each other of the good deeds we are doing as well as show a good example to the non Muslims.
Complaining of hunger/ saum oftenly
“Not even water?” . This is a mockery that other people who don’t fast use. Others use it as a joke but we keep on complaining it will look like fasting is a punishment while it’s not. We need to show people the reason why we are fasting and show them that anyone can it for a good cause.
Cooking three course meal for iftar
This is to the families who overcook and forget to feed the less fortunate ones. It results to israf where other muslims fast everyday with little or nothing to eat. May Allah easen their days and give them food in shaa Allah.
Overeating during iftar
We feel so hungry and the urge to eat alot by the end of the day. We compare what we take in on a normal day to ramadhan. We tend to serve more than what we need and tend fo force ourselves to complete the food infront of us. This is unhealthy. First, it makes a person lazy, more often than not, this person finds it difficult to stand for taraweh.
Getting angry/losing control
First, we should avoid entertaining bad jokes, this way, we reduce the chances of being hurt or getting mad.
We do not need to go shopping everyday to feel like its ramadhan. Some people think buying alot is what makes ramadhan worth it. No, it is the ibadah instead.
Reacting immediately to emotions
It is advisable to say AudhubiLlah everytime we feel tempted to get mad. Take time to reflect positovely on what has happened before reacting to it.
Engaging in meaningless /non- productive engagement
Instead of wasting time with friends and maybe getting to fights or watching dirty clips, one is advised to either read the Quran and watch meaningfull vedios. For the lovers of youtube, there are alot of channels for islamic life coaches, daawah and surmons that can benefit ans take a better part of your time. There is Quran App that you can listen to whenever you are, even in a public transport and channels in castbox for podcasts to also benefit your time during ramadhan.
If you are attached to the social sites, delete!!! If it is part of your income and you cannot delete at least detox. Get rid of all temptations that can bulify your saum. Accounts that provoke you to bad deeds, unfollow and it will be a good turning point for you.
This should’ve been the first point. Before you begin fasting, make peace with everyone you aren’t in good terms with and Allah will make peace with you.
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “It is not legal for a Muslim to desert (stop talking to) his brother beyond three nights, the one turning one way and the other turning to the other way when they meet, the better of the two is one who is the first to greet the other. ”